And other meditation advice

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It sounded like the croak of bullfrog at first. Then came the release, like that noise you make with your throat when you have an inner ear itch. It fell from her mouth in a giant blob onto the floor, all the undigested food and stomach juices, almost like a jello mold of random scraps she had found outside. It sat there, marinating into the carpeting.

But alas, I was meditating when my dog decided to walk right in front of me and throw up. When I tell people I’ve meditated every day for the past three and a half…

And 3 Shifts in Perspective on Sex

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Sex can be a lot of things. It can be pleasurable and painful. It can be emotionally beautiful, or traumatic and ugly. It can be fun, liberating, connecting, strange, full of wonder. And an increasing amount of people are coming to the realization that it is something else. Sex is sacred.

Sacred sexuality is an umbrella term that marries the modern sexual liberation of the west with the worship and reverence of sex often found in spiritual traditions around the world. It is welcoming and inclusive of sexuality in all of its forms, as long as it is consensual, honest…

A Story of Pandemic Transformation

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I was laid off in March of 2020 from my job as a manager of a day program for adults with intellectual disabilities. My program was forced to shut down in order to protect this vulnerable population, and though it reopened recently, I have no plans to go back.

The pandemic is coming to a close, and the question is all over the news- why is there a labor shortage? Why are people not returning to work? Many states are in the process of ending the Pandemic Unemployment Assistance Program early, which gave an extra weekly benefit to those already…

Divorce, Polyamory, and Universal Love

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After I had known her for a month, her eyes changed. But they were still the same in a certain way. I remember how she looked at me when I first met her, how she didn’t stop looking. It was an open and vulnerable stare, as if she was welcoming me into seeing every part of her, the strengths and insecurities, the resiliency, the depression, the disillusionment, the joy.

They were this deeply golden color, a color I felt like I had not seen before. She could have said anything with her words, but her eyes did the real communication…


The Strange, Disorienting Beauty of Spiritual Awakening

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Falling in love can be scary, and painful. It can disorient you and crack you open in the same way that heartbreak or tragedy or failure can.

I had never been to that Target before, and I found myself wandering around, asking myself where the nighttime briefs were for my son. As I was looking around, I caught eyes with a woman who was walking through the store with her teenage daughter. There were other souls in here, inhabiting this space.

I passed a man who was walking through the pharmacy stocking shelves, and I couldn’t help but stare at…

And The Research that Backs them Up

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Depression is an asshole. Psychotherapists have come up with all sorts of explanations of thoughts or behaviors or social conditions that bring it about. Psychiatrists have measured all sorts of neurotransmitters and chemical imbalances that they believe are the root cause.

But the best, most overarching, fundamental definition of depression that I can come up with is just that: Depression is an asshole.

Things are going great in your life, and depression is the asshole that shows up like, “Fuck you. You’re worthless. You've not got enough. None of this is good enough. The world is shit. People are shit…

Dr. Evelin Dacker on Sex Positivity, Shameless STIs, Polyamory, and a Sex Ed Curriculum for the 21st Century

Having good sex is one of the best parts of being alive, and we are afraid of it. This fear is reflected in the evolution and current state of sexual education in the United States. Conversations around sex education began in the 60s as a way to address our fears regarding rising teen pregnancy rates. During and following the AIDS crisis, the focus became more on STIs and condom use. Starting in the 90s, we decided to give in to our fears altogether, and tell teenagers and young adults to stop having sex entirely. “Abstinence-Only Until Marriage” was born. It…

Five Forms of Sexual Language for Superior Lovers

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Let’s face it, most young men do not learn about sex in a classroom, from friends, or from reading blogs like this. If you grew up with an internet connection, you likely learned most of what you know about sex from porn. Though it can be fun to watch, learning sex from porn is like learning how to fight by watching professional wrestling.

If you go into sexual encounters thinking it’s going to all work out, and it’s going to be amazing, you are likely to be disappointed. Women enjoy sex, but it is estimated that 35–40% of women experience…

Easy and Accessible Poses that Can be Brought into the Bedroom

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Practicing yoga will improve your sex life. And no, not just in a woo woo spiritual sense, but in very grounded, physical ways. Yoga teaches you about your body and your physical limits. It improves stamina, strength, and flexibility. More importantly though, it helps to show you things that you can do with your body that you may have not tried, or even thought about, which lends itself well to exploring new sexual positions. The positions listed in this article are fairly easy and accessible to most people.

Bridge Pose

Martin Mezei’s Transformation From Womanizer to Compassionate Partner

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He had the game figured out. He had read all the books, learned the techniques, and was now sleeping with 3–5 women per week. Martin Mezei was a pick-up artist and a really good one at that. He was living a life that was a far cry from that of his childhood of shyness, insecurity, and feelings of rejection from his peers, “even the nerds,” as he says. He was the alpha male now, the kind of guy who pointed at a woman across the bar and said, “You see that? I hit that?” That’s when the anxiety attacks started.

Sean Abramowitz

Sean writes at the intersection of spirituality and sexuality. He is currently training to be a clinical mental health counselor.

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